OK, fuck it, I'm calling 'bullshit'. If there's one thing I've noticed on social media lately, and especially Instagram, it's people pretending to be real. Ironic much? There's so much faux "OK, I'm gonna be real, genuine, authentic, blah fucking blah..." and it's so fucking contrived it ain't funny. Genuine isn't something you do, it's [...]
Contrary to what some people might think, being kind doesn’t make you weak. In fact, quite the opposite. Sometimes it takes enormous strength to be kind when you most need to, to the people who most need it. Because it can be tough being kind, when what you really want to do is lash out. [...]
[6 minute read] I recently saw a man attempt to contribute to an online conversation about gender issues. There’s no real need to go into what he had to say, suffice to say it loosely fit into the ‘not all men’ category. (If you really want to see it, I've included it down below.) Although [...]
Last night Barry Hall was sacked by a radio broadcaster here in Australia for making inappropriate comments. Unlike some media outlets, I’ll not be describing Barry as an ‘AFL Great’, but a ‘fucking disgusting piece of shit’. Because I personally couldn’t give a shit about how well he played football, but do care about who [...]
When my son was at school, like a lot of kids I suppose, he was bullied a bit. And I put an awful lot of effort into helping him interpret what was happening. To attach new meaning to what was being said and done. I suspect it wasn’t always effective, but when he’d tell me [...]
In the wake of the Eurydice Dixon rape and murder here in Australia, the spotlight is well and truly on the issue of violence against women by men. So here's my challenge to the men in my network, actual friends or otherwise: Challenge #1: Actually read this fucking post. Even if it's a bit [...]
A woman friend of mine (sorry to differentiate, but it's relevant), just told me that she'd only seen a grand total of three of her male friends post something supportive about the Eurydice Dixon rape and murder and, by extension, domestic violence against women, by men. (Even though yes, we understand that specific crime, wasn't [...]
[10 minute read] This is a message from me as a man, to you as a woman. I’ve always known we were equal, something you’ve had to fight hard to achieve. Something you’re still fighting hard for, most likely in ways I’ll never even fully understand or appreciate. I don’t know if it was the [...]
“Anything is possible” is supposed to be inspirational. But it’s not really, is it? Because what happens when you can’t do that thing you really want to do? That 'anything' that was supposed to be possible. You feel like shit. You feel like a failure. Like you’re not good enough. "If it's possible, and I [...]
For about five years now, I’ve wanted to write my next book. I’ve had heaps of ideas, heaps of fucking great titles, and even started writing it a few times. But I could never quite get into the groove. I kept feeling like a bit of a fraud. Because the book I wanted to write [...]
